Sometimes we are so much in love with an idealized image of
someone that we cannot see the real person at all. We are very slow to realize
that he is playing with us, feeding our hopes but realizing nothing of our
expectations. It is pretty tough to discover that the image you created of him
is fake for you fell into the trap of self-delusion. Of course he acts like he
needs you, but he keeps you at a distance all along, making excuses like he is
too busy to go out with you, etc. Is that true? Can it be? It makes you pretty
mad when you realize that he keeps rejecting you but has time for others. This
happens when a man does not truly want a woman. He enjoys your attention and
care, but he does not love you. Do you need that kind of thing? I guess not.
You know it is up to you to create your boundaries. It is easy to know someone
is not interested in you because it is always you who calls, sends messages,
communicates. I know you are interested in him and love talking to him, but do
you get attention from him in return when you need it? Why are you so desperate
trying to make it work? You don't have to prove anything. You don't have to go
out of your way to make it work when you see he is not interested. Be honest
with yourself and admit that you could not impress him. It does not mean that
you are not pretty or anything. It just means it is not you that he wants so he
does not deserve your time at all. Perhaps you have hopes that the situation
will change, but is this a realistic expectation? Why do you stick to someone
who always finds something more important to do when it comes to meet you? Just
make him understand that the game he is playing is below you. Respect yourself
and walk away from a person who keeps hurting you. He can be the most
attractive man in the world, his appearance is worth nothing if he is not
interested in you, right? Possibly he is just not meant for you. Don't waste
your time waiting for him to realize he loves you. He probably won't. Be good
to yourself and move on.
